So being a single girl in her 30’s is an experience to say the least, with most people asking, “when are you going to settle down”, “are you dating anyone”, “when are you going to have kids”. I remember one friend who has been in a long-term relationship saying to me “surely it can’t be that hard to find a boyfriend” (bearing in mind she met her partner the old-fashioned way many moons ago).
There’s so much pressure on women in their 30’s to meet someone and have a family, I went through most of my life (from age 17 to 27) in long term relationships, some good, some not so good. Since then I have been on a number of dates over the years and really, I could write a book about the bizarre and some downright cruel experiences I have had.
However, I try not to dwell on the past and live for the here and now. I am more focussed on enjoying my life and being happy with myself than hunting for men! Of course it would be nice to meet my partner in crime and “settle down” I am sure it’ll happen when it’s meant to (I am a big believer of everything happens for a reason).
I have tried your obligatory dating apps, Tinder, Bumble, Happn, POF, however it’s definitely a numbers game, and can be quite disheartening when you receive yet another strange, or creepy message. Also I think it’s hard to judge someone on a picture.
So, as my Mum says I need to get myself out and about. Here are some suggestions I have had for places to meet guys, what do you think? Did you meet your man in any of these places?
1. The gym. Now this one isn’t my favourite of the bunch, reason being I HATE the gym! Also, I’m not sure it’s the best way to meet men when I am sweating and red faced from running on the treadmill.
2. Clubs. As in the running club kind, not the raving kind (my raving days are most certainly over). I love to run so I am thinking of giving this one a go if only for the health benefits.
3. The supermarket. Once and only once have I been given a guys number in a supermarket when I lived in London. Needless to say, it didn’t go any further than him handing me his number and suggesting what rum I should buy!
4. Networking events. This one I am not so sure about, I think I’ll stick to the networking events for work rather than for meeting men. Although saying that my friend did meet her fiancé at a networking event.
5. Driving range. This one is quite promising and I might give it a go. Hitting the ball will be a good stress reliever and if I can meet a nice guy whilst doing it, bonus!
6. Dog parks. Any friends fancy lending me their dogs?
There are a number of ways to meet new people, but I think if it’s going to happen it will happen and isn’t something that can be forced. As they say “It’s better to be single than in the wrong relationship”.